less thinking, more feeling (knowing ourselves isn’t only about quantitative metrics)
“we are hard-wired to connect with others”
“we have a tendency to define things by what they are not” she was researching connection, interviewed people and they were talking about heartbreaks
then she studied shame and resilience to shame, people believing in their worthiness of love etc
cultivating authenticity and letting go of what people think cultivating self-compassion and letting go of perfectionism cultivating the resilience spirit and letting go of numbing and powerlessness cultivating gratitude and joy, letting of of scarcity and fear of the dark (Var inte rädd för mörkret)